A Virgo man can be extremely difficult to read. He is not generally sentimental, and he rarely expresses his affection directly. Instead, he demonstrates his feelings by doing practical things to be useful to you. He is not showy or flashy, and there is a real risk of his efforts going unnoticed. Don’t worry. We are here to help. Read on to learn seven signs of a Virgo man in love with you that are often misunderstood.
He wants to fix things for you
A Virgo man rarely shows his love in conventional ways. He is not one for overt expressions of emotion. Instead, he will want to be helpful to you as much as he can. This can lead to some rather confusing situations.
For example, you might invite a Virgo man over for a romantic dinner. You work hard to cook a delicious meal, set the table with your best dishes, and add finishing touches, such as candlelight. He walks in, and rather than commenting on the romantic setting, he says something about the doorknob that is loose and offers to fix it later that evening. Alternatively, he may find something messy or disordered in your house and offers to clean or organize for you.
Strangely enough, this is a sure sign of a Virgo man in love with you. It will be important to understand this because otherwise, you might feel hurt that he has not appreciated your efforts. He has, and this is his way of showing it.
He invites you to go to the gym with him
A Virgo man is usually quite interested in keeping healthy and fit. This sign is known to be a perfectionist, and that includes trying to perfect his body. Because of this, he is likely to spend a fair amount of time at the gym.
He may invite you to go to the gym with him. It is important that you don’t take offense with this, especially if he makes an unflattering comment about your weight or physical condition. He is not trying to be rude. Really, he isn’t, no matter how it may sound.
This is actually a sign of a Virgo man in love with you, as odd as this may seem. He wants to spend time with you and going to the gym together is one way of doing so.
He debates with you
Virgo is well-known for being a bit fussy and nitpicky. Yet, a lesser-known trademark of this sign is a keen intellect. Virgo is ruled by Mercury. This is the planet of intelligence and communication. Even though he can be a bit shy, he actually enjoys talking…quite a bit.
Unlike the other Mercury-ruled sign, Gemini, a Virgo man is not much for random small talk. Instead, he wants to discuss matters of substance. Because of this, he will try to engage you in conversations such as politics or philosophy.
These discussions could turn into full debates. A Virgo man is quick to find flaws in your logic or things that you overlooked. This is much more likely to happen early on in the relationship, by the way, and it could may you think that he is not interested in you.
Yet, the situation is quite the contrary. It is very likely to be a sign of his interest in and attraction to you, believe it or not.
He becomes more and more self-conscious around you
There are some signs that relax when they fall in love. Virgo is not one of them. Indeed, the more attracted he is to you, the more self-conscious he will become. Indeed, it could get so bad that he even begins to avoid you. He will also want to go slowly when it comes to physical intimacy.
The reason for this is that a Virgo man is hyper-aware of his own flaws and shortcomings. He tends to think that other people notice as much as he does, which means that he worries that if you get close to him, you will see his faults as well.
Also, falling in love is a difficult business for him. A Virgo man can fall in love, and he can do so fully and completely. This can feel like a loss of control.
A Virgo man does not seek control for its own sake, nor does he really want to control anyone else. On the other hand, in his quest for perfection, self-control becomes extremely important. If he starts to feel his self-control slipping, it will make him very nervous.
The best thing to do is to be patient. His avoidant behavior may very well be a sign that he is in love with you.
He becomes forgetful
It is fairly commonly known that people tend to be attracted to their opposites. What is less commonly known is that when people are starting to settle down with someone in a long-term relationship, they often act like their opposites as well.
The opposite sign of Virgo is Pisces. Pisces is a very spiritual sign but tends to have difficulties with the material aspects of life.
When a Virgo man starts to consider your relationship long-term, he will start to relax a little bit. When he does, he may become strangely forgetful. He may lose track of time and be late, or he may forget things like your birthday or the anniversary of when you met.
This could seem rather alarming, especially because he would have been so meticulous at first. You may also start to think that this is a sign that he is no longer into you.
With a Virgo man, however, this could very well be a sign that he is in love with you. He has let down his guard a little and has lost his constant vigilance.
So, you may wonder, how do you know that this is the case and that he is not just sending subtle clues that he is not interested? It is rare that a Virgo man would be so indirect. Usually, if he is going to leave you, he just will.
For this reason, it is best to give him the benefit of the doubt. Also, if you do give him the benefit of the doubt, it will increase his love and affection for you. It may even help him make the decision to pop the question if he is considering it.
He is vulnerable with you
Generally, if a man is vulnerable with you, it is a good sign. Yet, with a Virgo man, you can underestimate just how good of a sign it really is.
A Virgo man is usually in control of himself and his emotions. He does not share his feeling easily. He also does not like to appear weak in any way or show his fears or insecurities. So, if he does allow himself to be vulnerable with you, it means that he really cares for you.
There is a catch, however. A Virgo man also becomes vulnerable with those that he considers friends, so it could be a sign that you have been put in the friendzone.
The difference is in how he becomes vulnerable. If he is considering you to be only a friend, there will be a prickliness to his vulnerability. He will start to almost seem like a baby and want you to mother him.
If he is seeing you as a partner, on the other hand, there will be an air of soft humility to him. He will tell you his feelings openly and honestly, without pretense…and without necessarily expecting anything of you. He will talk candidly about the things that are on his mind and are worrying him.
He tries unsuccessfully to be romantic
If a Virgo man makes an effort to be romantic, no matter how feeble it may seem to you, it is a sure sign that he is in love with you. He will try very hard, perhaps even too hard, to please you.
In trying to make everything perfect, he may actually end up ruining the atmosphere. For example, he might take you out for a romantic dinner, but then embarrass you with complaints to the waiter because your food did not turn out just right.
He might also take you on a romantic getaway, but then annoy you with insisting that everything go exactly according to his plan whether you actually like it or not.
While it may be tempting to minimize his efforts, this would be a mistake. He is really doing his absolute best to show how much he cares for you.
Accept his efforts with grace and a smile. If you show annoyance or argue with him, it will only serve to increase his nervousness. If you are patient, forgiving, and appreciative of him, he will start to relax.
Once he relaxes, what was once awkward will become truly romantic. He will become gentle with you, and he may even share his inner thoughts and feelings.