In a video interview on the Science of Love which he granted the University of California, Berkeley, celebrated love psychologist Arthur Aron glorified love as being central to our existence. He went on to mention that “Love…is the biggest predictor of human happiness; it is the huge predictor of health…”
Love Is Important!
It goes without saying that everything we need in our lives as humans revolves around love: outside love, life becomes meaningless. Little wonder that everyone, young and old, craves for the affection and warmth generated and given in love. No matter how much and often we have failed to succeed in love, there’s somewhat an “illogical” longing in our hearts to give it another chance. And for newbies who are yet to feel what it’s like to fall in love, it is rather a mysterious wait for it to happen in the most unpredictable ways.
Fall In Love Quickly
In the post today, we will show you questions that can speed up the process of your falling in love with someone new or with an already existing partner. Part 1 of these questions is research-based by psychologist Arthur Aron, and part 2 is from our imaginations.
The good news is they will help you open yourself up to kindness and compassion. You’ll also find yourself becoming much more connected to the other person in a way you never thought possible. We aren’t going to kiss and tell; find out for yourself what these falling in love questions will do for you. Go ahead, and give them a try.
According To Arthur Aron’s Falling in Love Questions
1: Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2: Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3: Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4: What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5: When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6: If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7: Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8: Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9: For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10: If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11: Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12: If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
13: If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14: Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15: What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16: What do you value most in a friendship?
17: What is your most treasured memory?
18: What is your most terrible memory?
19: If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20: What does friendship mean to you?
21: What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22: Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23: How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24: How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
25: Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26: Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27: If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28: Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29: Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30: When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31: Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32: What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33: If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34: Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35: Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36: Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
Questions We Think Can Help You Fall In Love With Someone
37: What does self-love mean to you?
38: Are you capable of handling the challenges from long distance relationships?
39: Which stage of your life opened your eyes for the first time, to intimate love?
40: What 3 things you wish to undo about your past mistakes?
41: Do you have any love language which is well hidden from the human eye?
42: Briefly summarize your best romantic movie.
43: Does weight play a role in how fast you fall in love with someone?
44: Describe your ideal romantic getaway spot.
45: Who had the biggest influence on your own concept of love?
46: Have you ever been tricked into loving someone?
47: Will love be worth it if there’s no sex on the line?
48: In what way can dating lead to an intimate relationship?
49: As a child, who did you have a huge crush on?
50: Is there any event of the past that has placed a bar on your freedom to be loved?
51: How often will you like to be told, “I love you”?
52: Is it possible to fall in love after a one night stand?
53: How confident are you when it comes to expressing your sexual desires to a partner?
54: How far can you go for someone who you are in love with?
55: Which of your favorite colors is the most romance-evoking?
56: In your own opinion, did your last relationship end as mutually as you would have wanted it?
57: Were you expecting orgasm the first time you had it?
58: If you are asked to choose any person to fall in love with, who will that be?
59: Does loneliness affect your desire to be in a relationship?
60: Do you think your parents’ relationship has any significant influence on your choice of a partner?
61: Does eating certain kinds of food get you aroused sexually?
62: What has been the biggest “No” you’ve ever said?
63: At what age did you become aware of your sexuality?
64: Which of your childhood dreams lingered into your adult life?
65: Have you ever been desperate for love?
66: How much love can you give when you are still nursing brokenness and hurt?
67: What’s your best weather condition?
68: What’s your most favorite season of the year? Why?
69: Does your handwriting say anything about you which people are yet to know?
70: Can you marry the kind of person you’ve become?
71: Can you boldly say that you are proud of yourself and your achievements in life?
72: Do flowers appeal to you?
73: Which restaurant holds a special place in your heart?
74: In describing openness, which five words will occur most in your description?
75: What can mess up a great relationship if not checked on time?
76: Have you ever had sex with no romantic strings attached?
77: Beyond being a meal ticket, what other value does education have for you?
78: If you wish to fall in love, what will you do to attract someone’s attention to yourself?
79: What is the memory behind your choice of perfume?
80: What are the types of kisses you enjoy having most?
81: What will you do if you fall in love with someone 20 years older than you?
82: Where do you draw the line in a romantic relationship?
83: To a reasonable extent, will you say that you are happy with who you are as a person?
84: What attributes tell you that a person is the one for you?
85: Do you think you can love someone as deeply as they love you?