One would think that an Aries man and a Virgo woman would not be very compatible with each other. On the surface, these signs have very little in common. An Aries man is a warrior at heart and is impulsive and daring. A Virgo woman is a natural born secretary and is organized and analytical. Yet, these two have an odd understanding of one another.

Truth be told, an Aries man and a Virgo woman are often better co-workers or business partners than they are lovers or romantic partners. There is not much natural sexual chemistry between these two. On the other hand, if they do become attracted to each other, they will be able to sustain a successful long-term relationship.

Relationship Strengths

Even though an Aries man and a Virgo woman are very different from each other, there are some strengths to this relationship.

Mutual Respect

One of the most important points of compatibility between an Aries man and a Virgo woman is that they have a natural respect for one another. This is a lot more important than it seems, particularly in a relationship in which an Aries man is involved.

If an Aries man is going to consider getting involved with a woman, he must be able to respect her. If he does not, he will never see her as more than a fling or a one-night stand. The traits that an Aries man respects are strength and competence.

A Virgo woman may not seem strong on the surface, but she is extremely competent, and she does not back down from what she believes to be right and true. She will also find it easy to have respect for the courage of an Aries man and his capacity for hard work.


There is a natural equality between an Aries man and a Virgo woman. Both of these signs can seem rather controlling. Aries is a natural leader, and he wants someone to be in charge. He will respond to clear and firm outside authority, but in the absence of that authority, he will take command.

A Virgo woman does not necessarily want to lead, but she has a clear idea about how things should be done. If things are not being done the way in the proper way in her eyes, she will take control if she can.

In some cases, having two controlling personalities together could lead to conflict, but an Aries man and a Virgo woman are usually able to work things out without difficulty.

Even though an Aries man wants to be in charge, he is not necessarily interested in the small details about how things get done. In turn, a Virgo woman does not need the trappings of leadership, so long as things get done the way she thinks is right. This means that it is relatively easy for this pair to work together harmoniously.

Complementary Abilities

The differences between an Aries man and a Virgo woman can be an asset because they can complement and balance each other.

An Aries man has a great deal of initiative and energy. He also has no difficulty in making decisions. On the other hand, he can have some trouble finishing what he starts, and he is easily bored when it comes to details.

A Virgo woman is legendary when it comes to handling details, but she can get so caught up in these details that it becomes hard for her to make decisions. She also can have trouble knowing where to start when it comes to a new project or task.

Together, these two can make a very good team. The Aries man can help a Virgo woman to make decisions and get started on her projects. In turn, a Virgo woman can help an Aries man with the details that he does not have the time or patience to deal with.

Relationship Challenges

Even though an Aries man and a Virgo woman are more compatible than one would expect, they are still very different from each other. This creates several challenges to their relationship. Below are some of these challenges.

Low Sexual Chemistry

Although an Aries man and a Virgo woman have a lot of respect for each other, there is not much sexual chemistry between them. An Aries man is attracted to a bold, feisty woman who is larger than life. A Virgo woman is quiet and modest.

A Virgo woman is attracted to a serious, no-nonsense businessman. While an Aries man works very hard and can be quite ambitious, he is at heart a warrior, not a businessman.

These two can be great co-workers and amazing business partners, but it will be rare that they can find enough in common to become romantically involved.

Different Values

In the rare instances that an Aries man and a Virgo woman do get together, they have different values and do not see the world in the same way.

For Aries, life is one big challenge and adventure. The most important value to an Aries man is courage. For Virgo, life is a test that must be passed. The most important value to this sign is precision.

This makes it difficult for these two signs to see eye to eye. It also makes it difficult for them to connect with each other on a meaningful, personal level.

Power Struggles

As discussed above, an Aries man and a Virgo woman can both be quite controlling. Most of the time, they are different enough that they will not get into direct conflict, but from time to time, they can still find themselves in power struggles. This is especially true if they end up in a romantic relationship and live together.

The problems will come when they have to complete a task together. If they can divide tasks so that they can each do what they are good at, they will be fine. If they have to actually work together on the same task, though, their different approaches can cause conflict.

An Aries man wants to get a job done quickly. He is a hard worker, but he does not have the patience to stick to one task for long time. He wants to finish so that he can get on to the next thing.

A Virgo woman wants everything she does to be perfect. She will continue to work on something until it is. She can also see flaws that no one else can, so it can take a long time for anything to be perfect in her eyes.

Each one of them will believe that their way is right, which could lead to conflict and power struggles.


Communication can be a problem between an Aries man and a Virgo woman. These two do not speak the same language. Also, an Aries man has little patience for conversation.

When there are problems in their relationship, a Virgo woman is likely to start pointing out his flaws and the things that he is doing wrong. An Aries man will not take kindly to this, and he will lash out at her in turn.

If they manage to get through this, and their relationship develops into a long-term one, however, they should be able to come to an arrangement. On the other hand, this arrangement will likely involve deciding to agree to disagree about many things.

Points of Advice

If you are in an Aries man/Virgo woman relationship, here are some points of advice:

To the Aries Man

Although it may not seem like it on the surface, your Virgo woman is on a noble quest and adventure. She is seeking perfection, and her goal is just as arduous and unattainable as the search for the Holy Grail. What may seem like unimportant details to you are the mighty dragons that she must fight if she is ever going to come close to completing her journey.

If you can learn to see her in this way, you can begin to understand her and the things that she finds important. It will also deepen your respect for her, and she will become sexier in your eyes.

A Virgo woman has a good heart, and she will be loyal and true if you let her.

To the Virgo Woman

Your Aries man is a warrior at heart. His place is on the battlefield of life, not in an office. He does not care about or even see the small details that drive you to distraction. Let him be the person that he was born to be and do not try to change him.

Above all else, try to curb your tendency to be critical of him. Even though you probably have the best of intentions, he will not appreciate your critiques. Not only do they have the potential to cause conflict, but they will lower your sex appeal in his eyes.

To Both

Even though you are very different, your relationship has many strengths that you can build upon. Find ways to intentionally stimulate the physical attraction between you. Learn each other’s fantasies and try to accommodate each other. Your relationship is not as mismatched as it may seem on the surface.